When to let go…

 

 

Don’t we all wish something so good could be forever? Don’t we all hope that happiness is there to stay? There comes a time in our lives when we chance upon someone so nice and almost perfect and we just find ourselves getting so intensely attracted to that person (sometimes without even realizing it). This feeling soon becomes a part of our everyday lives and eventually guzzles our thoughts and actions to the extent that we tagged it as one of those too good to be true thing. The sad part there is when we begin to realize that, this particular person feels totally nothing but friendship. A thing that would be forever, a thing nothing more, nothing less… just a thing! You’re just a friend, and that’s the fact! Then in our desperate attempt to get closer (or at least be noticed), our efforts are still futile and we end up feeling sorry for ourselves. One person said, never ever let your heart run your life, as much as you can, always be sensible and let your mind speak for itself. Try to listen not merely on what your feelings are invoking on you as a person, but more importantly listen to reason as well. Letting go of someone doesn’t necessarily mean you have to stop loving, it only means that you allow that person to find their own happiness without expecting them to come back. Letting go is not just setting the other person free (in the real sense of it), but it is also setting yourself free from all animosity, revulsion, and resentment that was long kept in your heart. You have to let go because the bitterness often puts away the strengths and weakens the littlest hope, making our lives more miserable than ever. Worst, presenting yourself as the most affected one sets the nastiest impression of all time–what a loosa! The trick there is…always remember that if you lose someone today, it means that someone better is coming tomorrow. If you lose love that doesn’t mean that you failed in love…right? Just regard it as another mismatch of heaven! Well, you can cry of course, or whine or shout (growl even) if you have to, but make sure that after those outbursts you have washed away the hurt and the bitterness that the past has left with you (easier said than done I know!). We can all survive with just beautiful memories of the past but real peace and happiness come only with open acceptance of what reality is today. You really don’t have to forget someone you love (cause it’s hard). What we need to learn is how to accept the verdict of reality without being bitter or sorry for what we have become. I think it’s better that we give off that dedication and love to someone more deserving. Hmmm…”Who could it be” is the next interesting question to ponder. Let go of yesterday and love will find its way back to you. And when it does, pray hard that it may be the love that will stay and last a lifetime.

5 responses to “When to let go…

  1. This is good, real good! I pray that u stay strong and don’t look back. You are a beautiful person inside/out and deserve nothing but the best handed to you on a silver platter. None of these”appetizers”…you need the filet mignon baby! xoxo

  2. I’m sad to see this chapter of your life fade out, but I hope that you do find someone worthy, someone who sends your heart aflutter, and someone who takes care of you despite your independence. You deserve it, chica.

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