I was chatting with a friend today about her date last night and how he doesn’t think that she’s over her ex. I told her that it takes about 1/2 the time you were with someone, to get over them. I remember seeing it on Sex and the City when Carrie was trying to get over Mr. Big. I also remember reading it somewhere. It seems that it is true to an extent. With my past relationships, it seems that it has taken about that long to get over them…but it seems that they always remain in my heart. I think we learn from our relationships whether they are good or bad….but getting over and thru the bad ones just helps make it easier to sift thru for the good ones!
Life as a Houston Social Butterfly 
I just discovered my wife cheated on me – weekend away in Asheville. We were married for 8 years and have a 4 year old son. I trusted her fully and loved her so very much. She was my world. I did some digging and found her anonymous blog on this website. I discovered that she had another life blogging and posting half naked pictures of herself. We are separated and I would never go back to her but my heart aches and I feel all alone. It has been less than thirty days and according to you I have another three years and 11 months to get over her. Thanks.
I don’t think that it works the same for first love. It took me about 14 years to get over Joe! LOL. But we developed a great friendship in the end, so it was well worth the pain.
i read that as long as you never have to be in contact with them again, it should only take 30 days. this means absolutely NO CONTACT for 30 days (avoid him in the streets, at hang out spots, his friends, his picture, his blog/myspace/facebook, whatever). i made it a rule to not stay friends with exes. and even tho it might seem childish, it works. by the time you get re-in contact with them, you still luv them, but you dont Love them, you know? Love is a risk, just like taking a plane. you never fully calculate what the outcome might be. you just know it gets bumpy at time and u always hope for a safe landing. but then again, what do i kno. im only 20 something.
A lot of these are really right answers again different for different people. The 30 days thing, if you have less attachments kids marriage, then if you COMPLETELY eliminate all contact, pics, any reminders, and refrain from obsessing about them then in about 30 days that attachment subsides greatly, and yes you’ll have occasional flashbacks, reminders, but you wont get hit will flooded emotions like you do in the first 30 days. I read A LOT of poems, and love websites and it helped, and you have to also let go of that person, and always remember thought is your enemy if you obsess about to much, trust me I know from personal experience, and get out and do new things, meet new friends, if there’s a place you don’t go to because it has to many memories of an ex, try going with friends and making new memories. And please don’t check there myspace or friends to see updates, you take steps back when it comes to getting over someone.
im 27.. after dating for over 3 years, 4 months ago me and my ex broke up, we constantly argued for the last 4 months of our relationship which led to the break-up, we both said hateful things to each other for 2months after the break-up, then she completely killed all contact, i emailed and texted for another month and the person never responded so i gave up, it bugged me alot that we broke up because of arguing because we had so many plans for the future, i still work for her dad and im friends with her brother and this is pretty painful i will be quitting soon to help stop the memories because her dad really likes me alot and treats me like his son in law still and its very painful to feel all the love from her family but none from here . when we were arguing the persons friend from a different city moved in with her and her family and she had just broke up with her boyfriend of two years so i assume she was giving my ex really bad advice when we would argue.. when i stopped all contact after a month a felt loads better, started working out again, things were getting way better and i was feeling great,, then i broke down when in one day 4 different people told me she was out partying all the time. i checked myspace and apparently she was drinking a hell of alot and every post was about partying and drinkng …i relized she has turned into a different person than i loved..or its her way of cooping.
we must relize we cant make people feel a certain way if they dont want to, after being together for 2 years it will take a year im betting to get over them.. and zero contact and not wondering what they are doing is key…dont check up on your ex threw friends or websites it sets you back almost to the beginning.. the pain will go away and you will “get over them” but you may always love them ,,,just try not to mistake “loving” someone for being in love with them ..caring for someone you were with for a while is okay,,,but dont let that turn into the idea of loving them,,everyone has a soulmate and you will find them have faith!!!! people break-up all the time and the first 3 or so months are the worst..but we can all over come anything and come out with more love and wisdom than before sorry this was so long i hope it helps someone!!
If you really loved the person,thought they were the one and really just thought they were abosolutely perfect and you thought you would spend the rest of your life together, it takes about 1 year and a half to have peace about it. The first 6 month are hell on earth. Don’t listen to any music for the first 6 month. The absolute best thing you can do is get clarity for yourself by writting your feelings and knowing what you want and deserve. Trust God to pull you through and know that you’re going to be ok. Its true, you’re going to be ok. Fully forgive the other person and yourself. Give yourself all the love you wanted to give the other person. Exercise. Pamper yourself. Go shopping. Take on projects that will improve your lifestyle. Try to completely avoid thinking about the other person. When they do pop in your head, try to just be thankful for the time together then get them out of your head quickly. Make it your main objective to love yourself more than you loved that person and to become a better person. Remember God already made you complete and the world is already yours with or without that person. Get out and have fun.