Most people want the fulfillment of a meaningful relationship, even when it means commitment, sacrifice and a lot of effort.
So….I’ve been single for almost 2 years now. It isn’t because I can’t get a boyfriend, but I just wanted to take a personal sabbatical. Especially after my last roller coaster relationship. It’s amazing at how accustomed to being single I’ve become. In fact, sometimes I feel that I’d rather be single than be in the relationships some of my friends are in. It seems that they just “settle.” Am I just hopeful for wanting better? Don’t get me wrong, I would love to have someone to come home to, to cuddle with, to go to the movies with, or to just “be” with….but I also feel that after waiting this long…I want it to be with someone I feel is worthy.
Maybe it’s the fact that my parents have been “happily married” for 34 years. They still cuddle and go on dates and do cute couple things together. They are still “in love.” I guess until I find someone who makes me smile the way my dad makes my mom smile….I’ll wait.
Am I putting my walls up? Am I not giving some guys a chance? I don’t know….I am one of those people that automatically finds things wrong, but I also know that there are some things that you should look past. Who knows?
This morning on the way to work, while listening to Adele – “Best For Last” …..I started thinking and realizing that I haven’t felt the feelings she was singing about in a while. I haven’t stayed up wondering where “he is” or “when he’s gonna call” ….I haven’t analyzed the situation and wondered “where we stand” ….because there hasn’t been a “he or a we” in a while….I guess today I was kinda missing that….
Life as a Houston Social Butterfly 
I’ve only been single for the last three months and I have to say that I absolutely do not miss the ‘wondering where he is, when he’s gonna call, and where we stand’ bit. For me that became so exhausting. I’m looking forward to a time when I meet someone and I don’t have to wonder, wait or worry! I think WE are worth more than that, don’t you?
I think you are being selective and you know what you want. Love songs are always about drama and pain and you know you don’t want that. So good for you for sifting through to find the right man!
Funny that you’re questioning these things. A lovely girl I like is a few steps beyond the point you are…she’s been single for a long time and has built a great life for herself. The problem is she’s decided that her next mate must meet what seem to be unrealistic criteria. She’s settled in the past and been unhappy.
One criteria is that the prospective mate must have NEVER had children. While ideally it’s admirable to want to share that experience anew with her future husband it’s so incredibly limiting.
I’m trying to understand her point of view but it seems ripe with flaws. I read your post and it sounded similar and I was hoping someone could explain the logic to me.
=)
MiH
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