So, everybody tells me that I won’t find Mr. Right at the clubs or bars…which I do know several married couples who have met in such taboo places. Okay….so where else? I work really long hours and am not really into any other activities. I don’t drink coffee and/or see myself hanging out at places like that sitting at a table all alone…that’s just not me. I’ve dated men that I met at restaurants but they are just the same as the men I’ve met at bars. In fact, who’s to say that any other given night they may be at a bar/club?
I could go witht that whole “meet someone from church”. I am a religious girl, but I still have some bad girl in me that rages out every once in a while. I’ve tried the online dating thing but those guys seem very introverted and not really my type.
So….what are my other options? Who knows….and if I don’t meet Mr. Right at the bars/clubs…is it possible that I could meet his friends and then meet him at a later social function?
Then there is that old cliche’ ….what is it? Um….don’t look and you will find him….well if I’m not looking how will I find him?
Life as a Houston Social Butterfly 
There is no single ‘hang out’ for the Mr Right crew. That’s like a guy asking where all the decent women can be found.
Also with respect to online dating, I appreciate that some guys take the soft option of being a keyboard dating warrior rather than risking open rejection by approaching women face to face. However, ‘introverted’ is hardly a tag you can attach to half a million men on Match. Maybe you just picked some lousy ones…
With respect to bars I tend to advise women not to bother with guys found there. I occasionally go to bars and clubs but I soon get bored of the ‘pretty girls on a pedistel’ attitude so many young women have. Occasionally I’ll shoot the particularly attractive ones down in the hope that they’ll get the message not all men can be sold on cleavage and thighs. However, beyond that I can’t be bothered to talk to drunk girls out to seek sexual validation – it’s just not for me. On the flipside if you frequent such places you may become (possibly unfairly) classified as such a girl by the guys. Men are not out to find a long term partner in a bar – they are after sex for the night.
My advice is to approach (yes YOU) guys in neutral surroundings like banks, shops, cafes, etc. They’re not in hunting mode like they would be in a club and the lack of alcohol will yeild his true personality and character straight away. What more could you ask for?
Good luck.
Adam.
I totally agree with your thought process….live our lives as we do, going about the things that give us joy and laughter, smile alot and …..who knows Mr. Right might just be there, in line at the bank, doing his laundry, going to a nephews ball game, etc….He can be anywhere, we just need to be ourselves, and notice…..
Great post!